Does This Sound Like You?
You’re a deep thinker, intense and self-aware.
You have more ideas than you know what to do with.
Sometimes you struggle with the willpower to commit to a single direction.
Why don’t we do what we know we need to do?
Over the years I’ve heard countless reasons why someone hasn’t achieved a goal, feels stuck, or why they’re failing, like,
I can’t do it.
I don’t have the skills.
I don’t know where to start.
I don’t have the willpower.
I know I should, but I just don’t want to.
Are any those statements true? How do you know and can you prove it’s true? Here’s an important distinction that could dramatically improve the quality of your life:
It’s not WHAT you do – It’s how you FEEL while you are doing it.
“I know what to do, but I just can’t seem to do it.”
Why is that? What’s missing or blocking you from taking action? Often what’s missing is a compelling feeling or emotion. A strong enough emotion that compels you to change, to get up and take immediate action. I like to call this a “pro-active” feeling.
Here’s how the process works in our pre-frontal cortex: First, we think about what we want to do. Out thoughts create feelings. If our feelings have enough potency (feelings like love, joy, passion, and even anger), we will have the motivation to take action and succeed at what we want to accomplish.
Self-improvement is not a destination
The strongest emotion that will most propel us, often without conscious thought, is love.
Think of the parent who lifts up the back of a car so their child can escape from being crushed. How is that possible? The parent’s powerful emotions of love and protection for their child triggered a massive surge of adrenaline, giving them momentary super-human strength.
Imagine what you could accomplish in your life if you could harness that level of intensity, if you had absolute clarity, and took action where you once gave up.
Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it’s holy ground. There’s no greater investment.
Speed of execution is dependent upon clarity
How often have you tried to “follow your passion” as motivation to push through the tough times? Having passion for what you want to accomplish is important, but I believe clarity trumps passion any day.
When you KNOW what you need to do, step-by-step, you can focus on the present moment. You can focus on what you need to do, now. You are no longer dependent on a dream or a vision in the distant future.
You need clarity, passion, and a plan (a set of actions and habits to practice) to accept the necessary work to achieve your goals faster than you ever have before.
If this is making sense to you, let’s book time for a conversation to help you get clear on HOW you want to feel to finally get what you want from your life.